How can any of this be normal?

WHY??????"

If you would not do it with your spouse/mate standing beside you, it is cheating...a quote heard on Dr. Phil.

There is more truth to this phrase than many realize.

How stupid do you think we are? You have made us victims with your obsessions and addictions. You have destroyed our self esteem, our dignity, our self worth. We can walk into the room, and you start minimizing and closing out the trash that you were so into before you realized we were there. Do you really believe that we have no clue as to what you were doing? You take our love and our trust for you and throw it back into our faces. You take everything from us, yet you expect us to give you more, to accept your addictions without it bothering us because it is "normal'...it is your right as an adult, etc., etc.

You have us do something for you, whether it be elsewhere in the house, or to leave the house completely, because there is something that you have to have, but you are in the middle of something and can't be interrupted, yet as soon as we are out of sight, you go on your addiction sights, we wake up in the middle of the night and you are not beside us, we find you where else but in front of your computer, closing stuff out as soon as you realize that we are there, knowing that you were busted once again, yet you turn it around with a major attitude, like you were the one who was wronged.

What gives you the right to do these things to us, to make us feel inadequate, not worthy of you, or your full attention? You make us feel bad about our bodies, our minds, our love for you, and our lives! We feel that no matter what we do for you, it will never be enough in your eyes, your mind, your life! You are slowly destroying your partner, and you do not care, you need your fix, no matter what it costs us! We feel degraded, mentally abused, emotionally battered, and cheated, by the person that claims to love us the most! You cause us to doubt ourselves, and in turn, we doubt you...everything you say, and everything you do. You show us love and affection, but what brought it on, and is it really love for us, or lust, and an easy release for what is really in your mind? You pay us a compliment, making us feel good about something we have done for you, or the way we look, and then you turn to your fix. You look straight into our eyes, and you lie, so easily, and you call all of this "NORMAL"? How can any of this be normal?