How can any of this be normal?

WHY??????"

If you would not do it with your spouse/mate standing beside you, it is cheating...a quote heard on Dr. Phil.

There is more truth to this phrase than many realize.

How stupid do you think we are? You have made us victims with your obsessions and addictions. You have destroyed our self esteem, our dignity, our self worth. We can walk into the room, and you start minimizing and closing out the trash that you were so into before you realized we were there. Do you really believe that we have no clue as to what you were doing? You take our love and our trust for you and throw it back into our faces. You take everything from us, yet you expect us to give you more, to accept your addictions without it bothering us because it is "normal'...it is your right as an adult, etc., etc.

You have us do something for you, whether it be elsewhere in the house, or to leave the house completely, because there is something that you have to have, but you are in the middle of something and can't be interrupted, yet as soon as we are out of sight, you go on your addiction sights, we wake up in the middle of the night and you are not beside us, we find you where else but in front of your computer, closing stuff out as soon as you realize that we are there, knowing that you were busted once again, yet you turn it around with a major attitude, like you were the one who was wronged.

What gives you the right to do these things to us, to make us feel inadequate, not worthy of you, or your full attention? You make us feel bad about our bodies, our minds, our love for you, and our lives! We feel that no matter what we do for you, it will never be enough in your eyes, your mind, your life! You are slowly destroying your partner, and you do not care, you need your fix, no matter what it costs us! We feel degraded, mentally abused, emotionally battered, and cheated, by the person that claims to love us the most! You cause us to doubt ourselves, and in turn, we doubt you...everything you say, and everything you do. You show us love and affection, but what brought it on, and is it really love for us, or lust, and an easy release for what is really in your mind? You pay us a compliment, making us feel good about something we have done for you, or the way we look, and then you turn to your fix. You look straight into our eyes, and you lie, so easily, and you call all of this "NORMAL"? How can any of this be normal?

This man has no idea what depths I later sank to

If anyone could please pray for my uncle. He's got an unhealthy appetite for porn and I think one day it might just pass along to my nephew who I love like a little brother. This is the same uncle who years ago for my birthday presented me box full of porn. (we're talking a box the size of a television set here) this same uncle also took me out to a strip club and hired dancers for me. I will not lie to you I enjoyed myself at the time but this man has no idea what depths I later sank to and how hard I am trying to move away from that. I have no Idea how my aunt puts up with it, she's a fairly religious woman herself. CrushedWife if you are out there please help me understand. I am dumbfounded and maybe you could allow some insight into this for me. I had to visit him today and at the end of the night he came back to me with another offer for a visit to the strip club, there was an awkward silence and a polite refusal, and I drove off. On the drive home memories of that very same box, unceremoniously dumped somewhere off the side of the road.

It hurts when you've had more partners than your age

I've been with him for almost a year now, we've been friends for just a few months longer. I came from my mom's in St. Louis, I had lived there for four years. I've had alot of sex and i would be considered a "whore." I drank, I smoke, I got into a lot of fights. So I went to a rehab in St. Charles, Mo. And there I decided to move in with my dad. When I meet my boyfriend, i didn't want to go out with him. But I've been sober now longer than I ever have been. Yes, I have relapsed, but last time I did was the last time. I was drunk and got so mad and I tore up my friend's apt, they couldn't control me. It wasn't a good situation. But now I have only one problem with him. We've have sex, and wasn't not alot, maybe once a week. But I really know that my life wouldn't be as good as it is now without him. We talk so much, I can see my self with him. I won't break up with him, and we've been on a break from sex now for quite sometime, and that's when I got into porn. I dont want to talk to him about, afraid he'll think it's cool. It's not his fault but sometimes I just think if we we're having sex I wouldn't be watching these girls. I know how they feel. They like to be controled and humiliated, but they really hurt inside. It hurts when you've had more partners than you're age. So what should I do? What's worse choosing porn, or sex? Help me.

I want my life back

I'm a 35 year old man from Ireland, I have been looking at porn for over 10 years and it is dominating my life, it ruined my marriage and it has me living with my parents as every penny I earn I was spending on Porn (Magazines, dvd's and even prostitutes)

I want it to stop I want my life back, I can't even relate to women in any form any more. I feel uncomfortable and guilty in their company and am incapable of having a meaningful relationship even with my mother.